DEAR ABBY: There’s a lady at work I’m drawn to, however I’m uninterested in getting turned down. She’s very talkative with me and asks me plenty of questions, however when I’ve come on to her, I’m rebuffed. She says she has a boyfriend. I’m unsure why she’s so pleasant with me, however I really feel I’m getting combined messages.
In our job, we often should work aspect by aspect, and when that occurs, I’m conflicted about whether or not to open up or shut down. Possibly I ought to ask if she nonetheless has a boyfriend and, if she does, talk concerning the process at hand. The idle chatting is changing into uncomfortable, as a result of I need one thing extra. What’s the perfect plan of action? — NEXT TO HER IN NEW JERSEY
DEAR NEXT TO HER: Asking her once more if she nonetheless has a boyfriend wouldn’t be out of line. Nonetheless, if her reply is sure, neglect about something greater than a cordial work relationship as a result of not each attraction is mutual. Consider work whilst you’re there, and look elsewhere for love after hours.
DEAR ABBY: My late husband and I had been married 38 years after we lastly went to marriage counseling. I discovered then that he had slept with my sister early in our marriage. I had suspected he’d additionally had an affair along with his uncle’s spouse. (They had been very shut in age.) This, too, was confirmed in counseling.
My sister was lately residence due to our mother’s well being, and it was a battle to be in the identical hospital room together with her. So far as the opposite gal, there are just a few occasional household get-togethers, which I keep away from due to her.
I need assistance. How do I cope with this in any case these years? — NOT OVER IT YET
DEAR NOT OVER IT: Take again your life. You don’t have anything to be embarrassed about. Inform your sister and the opposite lady that you realize they slept together with your husband. And on the subsequent household get-together, inform the remainder of your family why you prevented all these earlier get-togethers so that they don’t suppose they had been the rationale.
DEAR ABBY: I dated this woman for 3 months. She needed to attend to decide to a relationship earlier than having intercourse. We had restricted time to see one another — Fridays, Saturdays and Sundays. We’d exit and return to her place and be very passionate, though we didn’t have intercourse due to her spiritual beliefs.
She has now determined to not pursue a relationship with me as a result of she didn’t really feel the “flame” of a reference to me. In any case this kissing, hugging and getting near intercourse at instances, how may she really feel this fashion? Was I performed? — TOTALLY CONFUSED IN TEXAS
DEAR CONFUSED: Give the girl marks for being trustworthy if she couldn’t return your ardor. Relying upon what she was getting from the connection along with kissing, hugging and fervour, whether or not you had been performed is a query solely you may reply.
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
