DEAR ABBY: My son is a loving husband, father and son. He coaches his 12-year-old son, my grandson, in varied sports activities and generally is only a spectator. I’m anxious as a result of he typically berates his son’s taking part in capability. He has yelled at him throughout and after video games, whether or not he’s teaching or not. He yelled and screamed at him in entrance of everybody and later at dwelling.
I’ve instructed my son, to no avail, that it’s OK to provide constructive criticism however with out the yelling. I even have instructed him the way it crushes my grandson every time he does this.
My daughter-in-law can be at a loss for how you can change his habits. My husband coached my son in sports activities when he was younger and he was onerous on him, too. I like my household dearly, however I don’t know what to do on this state of affairs. Abby, what do you suppose we should always do? — ‘HEARTACHING’ GRANDMA IN NEW JERSEY
DEAR GRANDMA: Your son could also be a loving husband, however he may use some teaching as a father. Somebody ought to level out to him that when a mother or father bullies a toddler about his poor athletic efficiency, it not often produces a optimistic outcome. It makes him lose curiosity within the sport and damages the youth’s vanity, and the consequences can generally final a lifetime.
After your grandson has had sufficient of the verbal abuse, don’t be shocked if he drops out of the game. Your son ought to have realized from the horrible instance his personal father set that this type of “teaching” normally doesn’t produce the specified outcome. He ought to take out his aggression elsewhere.
Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, often known as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Expensive Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
