DEAR ABBY: We requested our 19-year-old school daughter, “Lulu,” to dog-sit and housesit a number of months in the past. She knew our rule of no guests allowed in our residence whereas we had been out of city. Due to this, we didn’t really feel we wanted to arrange the home by submitting mail and paperwork away previous to our brief journey.
Lulu had her new boyfriend of some weeks keep over for the weekend. She not solely allowed this stranger into our residence but additionally deceived us for months. It’s troublesome to let go of our disappointment in her poor judgment by permitting a stranger into our residence with unsecured paperwork out within the open.
Her sexual actions and penalties are her “grownup” decisions, however I’m unsure after I’ll be capable to belief our daughter once more. She had a chance to start out constructing our belief shortly after we discovered about “the weekend,” however didn’t take our penalties and guidelines severely sufficient throughout her faculty break and misplaced entry to some privileges. Sure, she did begin counseling periods this previous semester. The place will we go from right here? — NO TRUST IN NEW MEXICO
DEAR NO TRUST: Since we now know Lulu has poor judgment and lacks respect to your guidelines, take away your home key (when you haven’t already), apply conserving your monetary paperwork below lock and key while you’re not in the home and rent a canine sitter. Then, cross your fingers and hope the counseling your daughter is receiving helps her turn out to be extra mature and make higher decisions.
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
