DEAR ABBY: I do know I’ll be chastised for having these ideas, however I want recommendation. I believed I used to be supportive to my good friend who misplaced her husband after a four-year battle with Alzheimer’s illness.
We’ve got recognized one another for 25 years. She has grow to be unresponsive and now not asks me about something. I examine on her nearly day by day, however she by no means makes the primary textual content. I additionally ship playing cards, which she doesn’t acknowledge.
Her husband died greater than a 12 months in the past, and I do know I shouldn’t decide her grieving, however I believed she could be higher by this time. Widows ask why their pals desert them after a demise, however what concerning the widows who desert pals? — LONELY IN THE EAST
DEAR LONELY: Some people are extra resilient than others. Whereas you will have been capable of recover from the lack of a partner, guardian, youngster or pet rapidly, others should not so fortunate.
The unhappy reality is, there is no such thing as a set timetable for grieving. Invite her out to lunch so you may discuss head to head as an alternative of counting on playing cards and texts. In case you do, it could assist her to get well extra rapidly.
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, often known as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
