DEAR ABBY: I came upon that, behind my again, my finest pal has been (secretly) rising hair for the previous yr. He is aware of I’ve been balding for a few years. Though I’ve accepted my follicular destiny, he is aware of I consistently seek for self-improvement in my life.
What bothers me is that he didn’t share the knowledge till I discussed I used to be interested by making an attempt Rogaine. THAT is when he instructed me he has been utilizing an analogous product for the previous yr and it appears to be working. He even took off his baseball cap (which he has been curiously sporting for a yr), to point out me the modest outcomes. I doubt he would have shared this if I hadn’t raised the topic.
I really feel deeply shafted by his secrecy, and I don’t see it as such a non-public matter that it needed to be hid. I do perceive that he might have felt embarrassed to confess it bothered him and that he was taking steps to deal with the problem.
What’s the rule of etiquette underneath the circumstances? Ought to an individual share self-improvement strategies which are modestly profitable with an in depth pal who would clearly profit from the knowledge (assuming it isn’t so private or non-public that it can’t be shared)? — SHAFTED IN PENNSYLVANIA
DEAR SHAFTED: There isn’t any rule of etiquette that dictates anybody MUST share this type of info. As shut as you might assume you might be to this pal, attempt to do not forget that not everyone seems to be snug speaking about medical interventions they’re utilizing for self-improvement. This contains cosmetic surgery, weight-loss medicine and cures for baldness (a situation suffered by members of each sexes).
Your pal was good to say that he has been utilizing a product just like the one you might be considering, however he was underneath no requirement to take action.
Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Expensive Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
